Without our permission!

If you have a woman at home- A mother, wife, daughter, in law, sister etc., you must have heard them speaking about  harassment on women generally.As a man at home, some of you must have got very angry seeing those illiterates (not based on education, but intelligence) behave immorally at your woman in the streets. You will get angry for sure, its your woman , right?

Its probably in a theater,mall, busstand, street, everywhere....Women go through this torture by men! Its not entire men crowd is blamable. Its the few, who has no morals, grew up in a ugly way, treat any woman ugly.

Guys, who has daughters understand my feelings better. I have gone through sexual harassment when i was just 5- by my own relative. I never said this to my mother or anybody, because i was so scared even to open up my mouth about this incident. Nothing big  happened, except i was a scared girl, wise enough to push that guy aside and ran away.

Till this day, we both never speak to each other, probably he feels guilty about what he had done, forgiving his age, he must have been 5 or 6 years older to me. But its a  bad start for a girl like me, any girl, for that matter, to experience harassment at that age.

One more experience i had is- in bangalore. I just got job at deutsche bank,where in my shift was UK, hence mostly i would return to home around 10.30, that particular day, i returned home much more  earlier than usual. Around 8.00 Pm i would say, was on call with my mother, speaking about my company so on and so forth.Walking in the street, JP nagar, bangalore.

An auto was coming from the opposite corner and he was driving towards me, seeing the vehicle i moved myself little more side to the street, yet, those idiots, managed to come and with a force, pressed my stomach and literally pushed me down and went away with a giggle.

For a moment , i was dumbfounded , shocked, literally ambushed. My mother was still on call, she was calling, ammu are u there? are u there? - I didnt reply her for 2 complete minutes, natually she disconnected the  call and called me again.

By this time, i was out of shock- little, so i picked up the phone and told about the incident to her! Its very foolish of me, immediately, my mum got very scared and she told me,bangalore is so unsafe, come back home, Then i had to pacify her by telling, come on amma, i lived here for 2 and half years, i know this place. Dont worry , kinda .....

These both incidents had a worst impact in my life. And i suffered from stomach pain continuously for 3 days after that attack on me. Wish it had never happened.

Why i wrote about my own life's incident because, i dislike to be treated this way. Period.

I like me,i like my body, i like everything about myself, but i dont like someone touching it without my permission. It makes me puke. I hate it. Its dangerous, it makes me angry, frustrated at being a dumb soul, who cannot raise a finger against this kind off crimes.

There is a general blame on girls, wear your dresses properly, we shall keep our hands to ourselves. Guys, are you mad? what is the stupid statement! It clearly says,  we are natually jerks, without harm, but when you girls provoke us with sexy dresses, we definitely show our jerkyness to you???

Two days back came this rape story in delhi, which made me literally weep, those bastards not only raped the girl, but threw her outside the running bus after the horror. Clearly hoping the girl will die.
Her intestine is totally damaged, the boyfriend who was with her, will never marry her, she will surely need psychological treatment , she has to manage her stress, moral, society, crime, education, parents, relatives, friends and her own self. How much damage? how much self destruction.

Apart from this, stupid media. Everything is against the rightness of the society and calling the rightness is literally the bad way of living.   Having experienced few by myself, i can empathize the girl's position now, she is getting treated. Without consiousness.

What gives you the right to take something, which is not yours? Who brought  you up like this?

Few days back, had a chat with one of my friend in twitter, about ogling. No girl with her right mind, would say no,for a decent attraction from the opposite sex. But its vulgarity against woman is painful.
Men in the name of dogs. Again i m not blaming the entire men crowd. There is black and white side for everything. I agree, but  news likes this makes me weep for a fellow human being rather than a woman.

Its atrocious and it has to stop. But, who will ring the bell, for everybody its a news, yeah, i wrote a blog post! That's all! I am blaming myself. I am totally corrupt, because i m not protesting it, its acceptable here. Yeah it happens! Country like india, it is so pure and virginal, not anymore, not when things happening like this.

Its india, bharat matha, so purified, so nice, so good, so decent, we never raise voice for anything, we are brought up that way, we resent violence, we prefer peace. we love- love, we are born to be the peace makes even with the enemies.

Then, what the heck would you call this incident or the incidents which is happening around this country for girls who reached the age of 5 - 90. Are we safe? are we protected? who is gonna protect us?  Yeah, its happening in north? so, we south girls, shut our mouth up? is that so?

Dammit ! Every woman cannot learn karate or kung fu to protect us, so the society must treat or learn itself. All i could ask whomever reading this post, please do us a favor, if you have son at home, Please teach him, to treat woman right, may not be equal, but as a fellow living being in this world.

World will not end, the sinners have not suffered yet.......

Prathi surendran